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TED Talk: Barry Schwartz on the need for more practical wisdom.

Monday, February 16th, 2009

TED

Here is another one of the best TED Talks from this year’s conference. Barry Schwartz’s argument for more practical wisdom. An argument against more rules (which create mediocrity) and excessive reliance on incentives (which demoralize professional activity).

But, most importantly (and to me personally) he argues that the most important virtue you can ever embody in your life is to: “Do the right thing.” Enjoy.

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Strongest Dad in the World

Wednesday, September 27th, 2006

My sister sent this to me today, and it’s pretty amazing. So, here it is for all of you:

Strongest Dad in the World
[From Sports Illustrated, By Rick Reilly]

I try to be a good father. Give my kids mulligans. Work nights to pay for their text messaging. Take them to swimsuit shoots.

But compared with Dick Hoyt, I suck.

Eighty-five times he’s pushed his disabled son, Rick, 26.2 miles in marathons. Eight times he’s not only pushed him 26.2 miles in a wheelchair but also towed him 2.4 miles in a dinghy while swimming and pedaled him 112 miles in a seat on the handlebars–all in the same day.

Dick’s also pulled him cross-country skiing, taken him on his back mountain climbing and once hauled him across the U.S. on a bike. Makes taking your son bowling look a little lame, right?

And what has Rick done for his father? Not much–except save his life.

This love story began in Winchester, Mass., 43 years ago, when Rick was strangled by the umbilical cord during birth, leaving him brain-damaged and unable to control his limbs.

“He’ll be a vegetable the rest of his life;” Dick says doctors told him and his wife, Judy, when Rick was nine months old. “Put him in an institution.”

But the Hoyts weren’t buying it. They noticed the way Rick’s eyes followed them around the room. When Rick was 11 they took him to the engineering department at Tufts University and asked if there was anything to help the boy communicate. “No way,” Dick says he was told. “There’s nothing going on in his brain.”

“Tell him a joke,” Dick countered. They did. Rick laughed. Turns out a lot was going on in his brain.

Rigged up with a computer that allowed him to control the cursor by touching a switch with the side of his head, Rick was finally able to communicate. First words? “Go Bruins!” And after a high school classmate was paralyzed in an accident and the school organized a charity run for him, Rick pecked out, “Dad, I want to do that.”

Yeah, right. How was Dick, a self-described “porker” who never ran more than a mile at a time, going to push his son five miles? Still, he tried. “Then it was me who was handicapped,” Dick says. “I was sore for two weeks.”

That day changed Rick’s life. “Dad,” he typed, “when we were running, it felt like I wasn’t disabled anymore!”

And that sentence changed Dick’s life. He became obsessed with giving Rick that feeling as often as he could. He got into such hard-belly shape that he and Rick were ready to try the 1979 Boston Marathon.

“No way,” Dick was told by a race official. The Hoyts weren’t quite a single runner, and they weren’t quite a wheelchair competitor. For a few years Dick and Rick just joined the massive field and ran anyway, then they found a way to get into the race officially: In 1983 they ran another marathon so fast they made the qualifying time for Boston the following year.

Then somebody said, “Hey, Dick, why not a triathlon?”

How’s a guy who never learned to swim and hadn’t ridden a bike since he was six going to haul his 110-pound kid through a triathlon? Still, Dick tried.

Now they’ve done 212 triathlons, including four grueling 15-hour Ironmans in Hawaii. It must be a buzzkill to be a 25-year-old stud getting passed by an old guy towing a grown man in a dinghy, don’t you think?

Hey, Dick, why not see how you’d do on your own? “No way,” he says. Dick does it purely for “the awesome feeling” he gets seeing Rick with a cantaloupe smile as they run, swim and ride together.

This year, at ages 65 and 43, Dick and Rick finished their 24th Boston Marathon, in 5,083rd place out of more than 20,000 starters. Their best time’? Two hours, 40 minutes in 1992–only 35 minutes off the world record, which, in case you don’t keep track of these things, happens to be held by a guy who was not pushing another man in a wheelchair at the time.

“No question about it,” Rick types. “My dad is the Father of the Century.”

And Dick got something else out of all this too. Two years ago he had a mild heart attack during a race. Doctors found that one of his arteries was 95% clogged. “If you hadn’t been in such great shape,” one doctor told him, “you probably would’ve died 15 years ago.”

So, in a way, Dick and Rick saved each other’s life.

Rick, who has his own apartment (he gets home care) and works in Boston, and Dick, retired from the military and living in Holland, Mass., always find ways to be together. They give speeches around the country and compete in some backbreaking race every weekend, including this Father’s Day.

That night, Rick will buy his dad dinner, but the thing he really wants to give him is a gift he can never buy.

“The thing I’d most like,” Rick types, “is that my dad sit in the chair and I push him once.”

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North Beach Rocks.

Sunday, August 20th, 2006

I love my neighborhood. It’s as close to italy as you can get in America. Gelato, all the pasta you can eat, and some damn good coffee. Of all of the coffee in North Beach, Cafe Trieste is the most famous. A local hangout during the beatnik era, seeing many visits from the likes of Kerouac, Trieste’s coffee is known worldwide. This weekend was their 50th anniversary, and I grabbed this video of the festivities:

Now, I need a trip to Venice :)

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On marriage and personal branding.

Friday, June 30th, 2006

A random thought on my mind over the last week or so has been centered around why women are forced to give up the personal brand equity they have built into their names when they get married. I may be too innovative, or something, but I kind of think this is pseudo-ludacris in todays world.

In a month, one of my best girl friends, who also happens to be a very close work associate (we’ve worked together for close to 4 years), is getting married. Soon after, she’ll take her new husbands name, and be forced to embark on a personal PR/marketing campaign to inform the business world of her new brand.

She’s very talented, always dependable, a veritable work horse. People trust her brand, and know where to find her. Soon, they’ll have to learn to trust a new brand. A brand that was built by someone else.

It’s timely that in my previous post I was discussing my great friends John and Malgosia, the couple behind Nuvvo, and authors of a great blog called Married-Inc. As I was going through their blog archives, I stumbled across a great post on just this topic from Malgosia. She hate’s being referred to as Mrs. [Insert Husbands Name Here] (though she doesn’t mind the name change as much). And, I absolutely agree.

Why should a woman be forced to take the name of her husband and eliminate her own personal brand equity in favor of her husbands personal brand? What if she’s got a great blog? Where do married domain names go to die at this juncture? Do you change the domain? Change your blog? Change your brand? Should personal brand equity advisors exist, that compare the equity built into both brands and the implications of combining them? An interesting thought.

This bothers me. And, I’m interested in every woman’s opinion on this. Do you feel the same way? Is it ok just to accept the status quo, the “old fashioned” way to do things? Do you not have a right to your own personal brand without the shadow of your husbands?

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IronLo™

Wednesday, June 28th, 2006


Flickr’d by davemorin.

2.4m Swim
112m Bike
26.2m Run

Yes, that’s a marathon at the end.

I spent the weekend in Couer D’Alene, Idaho watching my sister compete in the Ironman competition. Couer D’Alene is an unknown jewel , one of the country’s best kept secrets, nestled in the Idaho panhandle next to one of the most beautiful mountain lakes ever.

Watching a family member do an Ironman is an exhausting thing. Though my sister is a genuis in biological science and nutrition, I still spent the day cheering and deeply hoping she made it through the day ok. At an Ironman, you maybe get the chance to see your athelete once every couple of hours for a glimpse. So, the day can be exhausting. Not to mention, the 100 degree heat in the afternoon.

But, I’m overwhelmingly happy to report, that my sister finished her first IRONMAN with flying colors. Placing 2nd in her age group, and 312th overall. And, even more amazingly, her bike splits put her at 20th overall amongst the women.

She truly is an amazing athelete.

I had the chance to run the last 200 meters through the finish with her, and had never felt such overwhelming joy and love for her. What an amazing feat of sheer mind over body mastery.

I love you Lo. At 23, you’re more of an inspiration to all of us than most of us could have ever imagined.

For more detail on Lo’s finish and amazing stats click here.

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